Disappointment is a feeling of jumping in a pool upside down when you are expecting to do the breaststroke. Misplaced expectations might be the root cause of disappointments suggesting that we each have every ability to deal with life setbacks that result in disappointment.

Disappointment is a complex emotional state characterized by feelings of sadness, dissatisfaction, or disillusionment when expectations or hopes are not met. It arises from the dissonance between reality and one’s anticipated outcome. 

This caustic emotion can be triggered by various situations, such as unfulfilled personal goals, unmet expectations in relationships, or professional setbacks. The expression of disappointment can vary among individuals, but for me this past week, it manifested itself in sadness due to being letdown. This disappointment I felt triggered feelings of self-doubt, which zapped me of motivation, and drained me of optimism. 

I read that coping with disappointment involves acknowledging and accepting the situation, adjusting expectations, and seeking alternative ways to move forward. I placed too much support on the results of the meeting that was cancelled and need to remain responsible for my own emotional well being. 

I have studied experts who suggest emotional support and positive self-talk can aid in managing disappointment constructively, but I’m convinced that managing expectations and my own emotional state is the only part I can control when feeling disappointment.

So I have come to learn a need for dealing with disappointment, because it can be challenging.

I have learned that it’s okay to feel disappointed. Acknowledging my emotions and giving myself permission to experience them without judgment is key. When I bottle up my feelings the situation becomes too overwhelming.

Since I came out of the closet as gender-queer, I realized that I have to temper my expectations, because my friends and family are dealing with news they never imagined they would be facing. By reflecting on my expectations and assessing whether they were realistic, I give myself the ability to be more realistic in allowing space for people’s responses, which can only help prevent future disappointments.

As difficult as it can be, I try at al times to look for lessons and opportunities for growth in whatever disappointment I am experiencing. Sometimes, setbacks can provide valuable insights that lead to future successes. Although I have found it essential to acknowledge disappointment, I try not to dwell on negative thoughts excessively. Dwelling can lead to rumination, which obliterates  my emotional state.

Dealing with disappointment is a process that takes time. The hardest thing to learn is to be patient with yourself as you navigate through your feelings and gradually move forward.