If a popular local politician and also a self-identified transgender individual walked into your church, who would be greeted first? Who would the church’s welcome team be more pleased to see, and go the extra mile to make sure they felt at home? Who would be invited back the following Sunday? If your honest answer… Read More Compassionate Community
Have you ever sat and watched a dog play at the beach? Wrestling about in the sand chasing a ball or frisbee until their tongue hangs out and gets all sandy. Dogs don’t care about sand. Dogs don’t imagine they’ll ever run out of energy when they play. I should be more like a dog.… Read More Free Spirit
Managing my life has been tiring there’s so much, I felt the need to hide but, my hope is that as I confide I am gay that my words in the end will be inspiring Like many, I am no stranger to the dark Hide away, I always felt “‘Cause people don’t want your broken… Read More This Truly Is Me
1982 was an eventful year, with Ozzy Osbourne eating a bat live on stage, the Falkland War taking place and a new British Prince being born. In August, 1982. Robin Herman, who is currently assistant dean for research communications at HSPH, was then a metro reporter for The New York Times. She was assigned to cover a… Read More 1982
Recently, I spent some time thinking about a deep sadness I have been feeling. I thought at that time that it would be easy to step aside from the sadness and say, “it doesn’t matter how I feel”. I mean, who am I? Could it really matter how I feel or don’t feel? The answer… Read More Go Ahead and Stand Out
I came out of the closet a few yers ago. I have been processing my identity for a long time and am in no way finished processing. As a result of my processing, I now understand and realize more and more my desire to live into the fullness of who God made me to be… Read More How Did I Get Here
According to Wikipedia, “a toilet is a piece of sanitary hardware that collects human urine and feces, and sometimes toilet paper, usually for disposal. Flush toilets use water, while dry or non-flush toilets do not. They can be designed for a sitting position popular in Europe and North America with a toilet seat, with additional… Read More Sh*t Happens
For years I have preached Jesus’ two commandments, “love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul mind and strength and the second one like it, love your neighbor as yourself”. I preached that and meant it. It wasn’t until I felt God pushing me out of the closet that I realized that I… Read More I Love Me Not No More
I came out of the closet to the world on October 12, 2022. Holy shit! Talk about a wave of emotions! I came out of the closet to my wife three yers ago. I came out to my family earlier this year. I have been talking with fellow pastors over the last couple of years… Read More Detonating the Walls of Closet Life
I plan to write a great deal more but let me share these thoughts as a beginning of our dialogue together. I hope you are alright. You’ve experienced something nobody should ever have to experience. What happened to you was rape. It’s something that those two men should have never done to you. You feel… Read More Letter to my 10yo Self
Honesty is nice in theory, but not everyone can handle total, brutal honesty. In my life, I have spent too much time trying to get a good read on people before being brutally honest with them. I have decided for them that they cannot handle my whole truth, so I never gave it to them.… Read More Coming Out Authentic
There is an interesting dynamic that takes place with some Christians; the sentiment is, ‘let’s share our lives together, but let’s be careful not to share everything’. Do we cheat others when we only share part of our lives rather than all of our lives? I can admit that pastors live in a tension of… Read More A Time For Everything
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